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One
of the reasons people struggle with anxiety
is due to their exposure to judgmental
people. Think about some of the primary
relationships you have had. Have you ever
worried because you've felt like someone
was looking over your shoulder too intently?
When you have had extra exposure to unnecessary
scrutiny, it can eventually erode your
confidence and it can certainly have its
negative effect on your emotions. Take
a look at the following statements and
determine how many apply to your life.
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People
give me advice even when I don't particularly
need it. |
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I become
annoyed because of my exposure to
hardheaded people. |
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I try
to be thoughtful toward others, but
they still find fault in what I do. |
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When
I try to explain my needs or perspectives,
key people don't seem to care. |
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I work
hard to make sure that others aren't
frustrated with me, though I can never
be sure if it is doing any good. |
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I don't
like having blemishes on my record.
It is important that I be known as
reliable. |
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I probably
let my self-esteem become too easily
tied to others' opinions. |
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I have
felt that some key people in my life
have been unfair in their assessment
of me. |
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Some
people seem reluctant to just let
me be a regular person with normal
ups and downs. |
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People
put demands on me that can be very
difficult to maintain. |
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It
seems that too many people put more
emphasis on rules than relationships. |
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When
I offer ideas, I know they will be
picked apart. |
Trying
to appease your self-appointed judges
can be exasperating and no matter how
hard you try, it seems that nothing seems
to satisfy them. Would you be willing
to let go of your worry by accepting yourself
as you are? By acknowledging that a judgmental
spirit is as sign of insecurity? That
someone else's spirit of judgment says
more about that person than about you?
Sure enough, it is desirable to be secure
in the knowledge that people you care
about will accept you as you are, but
if that is not the case in your life,
you need not pay the price by carrying
unnecessary anxiety.
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