of the most appealing characteristics
of humanity is the uniqueness of each
person. No person looks or thinks or acts
exactly like another. We are each set
apart in some way from the crowd. That
being stated, there are many who may be
threatened by your uniqueness and they
make it their job to fit you into their
mold. When this happens, it sets up the
problem of boundaries confusion. You are
not allowed to be a separate unit, but
you are expected to become something you
are not. Too much exposure to this way
of living will create certain anxiety.
To get an idea if you
live with boundaries confusion, look over
the following statements to determine
if any of them describe your life.
I'm expressing an opinion, it seems
that others are listening for the
purpose of offering an immediate rebuttal.
are strong-willed people in my life
who freely tell me how I should think
felt manipulated by people who just
have to have their way.
regular conversations with key people
I measure my words carefully.
seems that I receive too much advice
or suggestions that I didn't ask for.
I attempt to stand upon my separate
perceptions, others seem offended.
to be accepted by the very people
who won't accept me.
past experience, I've learned that
being unique can often be accompanied
by an unusually high emotional price
you speak about your needs or convictions,
your tone of voice can become coercive.
a tendency to just go along with people
rather than stirring up controversy.
different seems to create more problems
than it solves.
When you recognize that
there is confusion regarding boundaries
in your life, rather than waiting for
others to make the necessary adjustments,
you'll need to stand upon your own uniqueness.
This may not always produce wonderful
responses in others, yet you will remain
perpetually tense if you do not live consistently
with who you are. Are you willing to make
the necessary adjustments that will ensure
that you are being true to your real self?