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When most people
think of anger it is open aggression that
comes to mind. Aggressive anger involves
the preservation of personal worth, needs,
and convictions at someone else’s
expense. This is the category of anger
that includes explosiveness, rage, intimidation,
and blame. But is not limited to these
extreme forms of expression. It can also
include bickering, criticizing, griping,
and sarcasm. Foul play is usually always
guaranteed.
To get an idea of the
nature of openly aggressive anger, look
over the following statements:
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I can
be blunt and forceful when someone
does something to frustrate me.
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As I speak my convictions, my voice
becomes increasingly louder. |
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When someone confronts me about a
problem, I am likely to offer a ready
rebuttal. |
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No
one has to guess my opinion; I'm known
for having unwavering viewpoints. |
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When
something goes wrong, I focus so sharply
on fixing the problem that I overlook
others' feelings. |
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I
have a history of getting caught in
bickering matches with family members. |
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During
verbal disagreements with someone,
I am likely to repeat myself several
times. |
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I
find it hard to keep my thoughts to
myself when it is obvious that someone
else is wrong. |
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I
have a reputation for being strong
willed. |
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I
tend to give advice, even when others
have not asked for it. |
The more of these statements
you can relate to, the more likely you
will have an aggressive form of managing
anger. Predictably, you will have more
than your share of ongoing struggles with
relatives and close associates. You probably
have emotional insecurities that will
need to be addressed so that you can have
more rewarding relationships. Life is
certain to have frustrations and imperfections,
so unless you determine to handle anger
more constructively, you can expect many
hurts.
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