Once
people pleasers recognize the ways they
shoot themselves in the foot, they can
determine to opt out of the excessively
compliant role. First they need to be
mentally prepared to face the challenge.
Look over the following statements and
determine how many of them you would be
willing to embrace:
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IMBALANCED
PEOPLE PLEASING
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CALM
ASSERTIVENESS |
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Encourages
others to take advantage of you in
disrespect. |
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Indicates
that you see yourself as a person
of dignity. |
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2.
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Plays
into the self- serving schemes of
others. |
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Tries
to get others to see the value of
teamwork. |
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3.
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Allows
false guilt or fear to be a primary
motivator for behavior. |
3.
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Allows
fair-mindedness to be a
motivator for behavior. |
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4.
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Your
direction is based on the actions
of others. |
4.
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Your
direction is based on well-conceived
initiatives. |
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5.
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Emotions
are suppressed. |
5.
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Emotions
are openly expressed. |
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6.
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Leads
to feelings of burnout. |
6.
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Leads
to feelings of fulfillment. |
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7.
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Tries
to take responsibility for others'
happiness. |
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Realizes
that others are ultimately responsible
for their own happiness. |
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8.
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Lives
with a "walking on eggshells"
feeling toward others. |
8.
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Lives
with openness and self-acceptance.
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9.
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Becomes
and appeaser when others are angry.
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9.
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Can
objectively weigh the facts when others
are angry. |
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10.
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Won't
stand up for convictions in the presence
of overpowering people.
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10.
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Realizes
that standing up for
convictions is a responsibility.
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